CRJ #5

Sexuality to me is a taboo topic, but at the same time it is very interesting for most to talk about and it is interesting to read about. The concepts of identity, attraction, practice, control, and power are all seen in human sexuality.

Being a woman it is hard to express sexual feelings and desires, because no matter what the answer is, it will always be turned against you. Either you are loose or prude there doesn't seem to be a healthy sexual appetite or desire for women, only men. If a woman openly admits she likes sex or wants to have sex, she's a slut and undesirable. If a woman chooses to not have sex or not have sex often, then she is uptight and prude and undesirable.

With the negativity toward women's sexuality, there is also negativity toward other people's sexuality and sexual choices. This is where sexual identity can be a fuzzy topic. Sexual identity is defined as a person's attraction or preference to someone of a certain gender. There are three main types of sexual identity. Heterosexuality is when a person is attracted to someone of the opposite sex. Homosexuality is when someone is attracted to another person of the same sex. And then finally Bisexuality is the attraction to either sex. And contrary to popular belief bisexuals do not have sex constantly and are not "greedy" and having sex with anyone they can.

I had never realized that politics had anything to do with sexuality. But after reading I realized that since society has a role in assigning power based on gender which gives it a political context. This can be seen in heterosexual relationships where men bring the power and dominance while women are more submissive and subservient. The text also mentioned that some heterosexual relationships can be unhealthy or unstable based on the unequal power within the relationship.

When it comes to the argument of homosexual couples and children, I think they should be allowed to raise children- their own or adopted- and still have a healthy family relationship. One of my best friend's parents got divorced and her mom decided she liked girls and is now in a partnership and they are the greatest people I know. They love all three of her mom's children and treat them amazingly. And there is no way that she or her partner would ever make the children or give them the idea that they too need to be in homosexual relationships. My best friend is now married to her husband and they are living in Phoenix, AZ where he has his job. Also, with regards to agreeing with the text, heterosexual males are the main predators of children. This can be seen everywhere research and news as well as other outlets of communication.

Even though I feel uncomfortable talking about sex and sexual ideas, I found this reading to be very interesting and eye-opening. Some of these ideas I have known about for a while, and at the same time, some of them were new to me and I enjoyed reading about it. Just don't ever expect to carry on a conversation with me about it- I will turn red and stutter.